Dear Son – Tip #3 – Hitting

Dear Son,

The next tip offered in the list of 45 Ultimate tips is “Never hit anyone unless they are an immediate threat”

Not a bad tip this one.

It reminds me of the Happy Days episode when Richie tells Fonzie that he’s afraid Fonzie will hit him. Fonzie replies, “Richie, have you ever seen me hit anyone?”

Fonzie explains his reputation as a tough guy came from hitting someone once. From there, his reputation as a tough guy was cemented.

That said, you should avoid hitting anyone unless you or someone is under “immediate threat” and you need to do it. Those cases are very rare and you have, like most men, danced on that razor’s edge.

In time, as you mature, you will find yourself in a decreasing amount of situations where physical violence is unnecessary.

Unfortunately, there will be times when you must draw on your inner strength to actively avoid physical confrontations. Self-defense is permissible, legal in some instances, and necessary.

Never, ever hit a girl or a child.

Recent high profile examples have been in the media lately regarding NFL stars who have crossed that line. Clearly, these are men in need of counseling and eventually forgiveness only after they have been appropriately punished.

The scars they have left are dramatic and could burden their victims for life.

Violence, it is said, never solves anything. That is not true.

Sometimes, one needs to defend oneself and those around one.

Please avoid those situations at all cost since the cost is rarely worth the expense.

Like Fonzie, however, you might end up hitting someone. If you do, and you have, you will know that you are strong enough to do so.

Being stronger mentally and emotionally not to, is a strength of character that will do you greater good.

Don’t let anyone push you around, especially yourself.

You will fight with yourself far more often. For some that is daily, if not hourly.

We beat ourselves up. Defend yourself against that and you will live a happy and healthy life.

Cement that in your reputation before you rely on physical strength and courage.

It’s a battle that will toughen you up for life’s most difficult confrontations.


Chris Saxman

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Father of four, small business leader, retired politician, and Executive Committee member and former Chairman of an international trade association, Chris Saxman delivers strategy and insight as a political coach and keynote speaker. Contact Chris.

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